Motherhood

Well I wanted to start by saying, Happy New Year, seeing as this is my first post of the year! But hello, we are well into 2020. With the new year comes new things, or so they say. As I said, the year is well on it’s way, with this month almost over!😱 Where has the time gone!? Let’s get on with the post shall we.

From the minute you brith your little bundle of joy into the world, your whole life changes. Your goal in life is to now protect and guide that little human in life and to hopefully groom them into the best person they can possibly be, to give them the best life you can, to keep them safe, healthy and loved. You want the best for you baby. You put their happiness and well being above your own. In most cases you want to give them more than you had as a kid, to hope and pray they don’t make th e same mistakes you made when you were young. Maybe even to not raise them as your own parents did. Of course as a new a parent everything is new and quite a challenge. You’ll receive advice from all around you, even from google when you are left with no where else to turn. Somtimes other people’s advice can get you feeling guity, like you’rer doing something wrong, or not doing what’s “suppose” to be done. And you question yourself and worry even more. 🚫STOP🚫I feel like I’m still learning this. Even with all the different advice you may receive, it’s always important to do whatever works best for you and your child. What works for one, may not work for someone else. No one knows your child better than you do.🙌🏽

Motherhood is a tough gig. You don’t get any days off, even when you are sick. There’s no such thing as taking a break from your crying tantrum throwing 2 year old or fussy never wanting to nap 3 month old. 😞If you are blessed to have family near to help you out on occasions, then you might get a small breather. But even then it’s back to a full day of mom duties! From cooking, to cleaning, being sleep deprived, changing diapers, playing with your kid, feeding your kid, doing laundry, cleaning up the spaghetti sauce on the floor and walls your kid just threw, bathing your kid for the 3rd time, trying to finish the other cleaning you were doing, wanting to work out, grocery shopping, and wait, did you eat? 🤔Oh snap did you even take a shower yourself? 😫Yea we get so wrapped up in the things we gotta do that yes, sometimes we forget to eat or even shower. That’s not to say we don’t, because, uhh that’s gross and not good hygiene!😆 But hey it happens, 🤷🏽‍♀️and it’s ok! And if your a working mama, your plate is probably running over! We try to accomplish so much in each day, trying to make sure everyone else is taken care of, forgetting that sometimes it’s ok to NOT be able to accomplish everything in one day. It’s ok to take a break, and take care of you. Breathe, cry, rest a little. You’ll get to that laundry and your cleaning eventually.😊

I only have 1 kid, and I feel overwhelmed. I give kudos to all you moms with more than one! You gotta do what you gotta do, and that means taking care of all your babies the best you can and you just find a way and make it work. I applaud you! 👏🏽👏🏽 Mentally, I know I’m not able to handle more than my one little bean. Yes I have thought about it, but quickly change my mind because it scares me. I hear all too much, ”it gets eaiser with two”, or “she needs a playmate“ or “she can help you more” and the oh so popular “you need to have a boy now”. Insert eye roll here. 🙄 How about YOU have that additional child then! It’s easy to say what someone else should do, when you don’t have to deal with the responibilty of it, along with the financial needs and everything else that comes along with having ANOTHER child. Anything can happen, and opinions may change, but as of right now, I’m good and totally ok with my 1 delightful darling daughter. And everyone else should be too.

Becoming a Mother can change you mentally for sure. For some it can be more challenging, like fighting through Baby Blues, Postpartum Depression, anxiety, mood changes, and other prenatal disorders. These challenging things can occur at any time, from the first 12 months of childbirth. Not all mothers recognize they even have symptoms or seek help for their disorders. Some may know, and choose to fight it on their own. These symptoms can remain long term without treatment. It’s important to research’s these symptoms and be aware of them, and look out for the signs, in yourself and others as well. But know, that having these symptoms does not make anyone a “bad” mother and it has nothing to do with what they have done. It simply requires patience, understanding, and a good support team to fight through it. I have suffered and still suffer from some of there’s things, although I have had no real doctor diagnosis, my biggest support and cheerleader is my husband. Not sure where I would be without him.❤️ Whoever your support is, lean on them, and let them in to help. You are not alone.

As a mother, you discover a strength you didn’t know you had, fears you didn’t know existed and an unconditional love unlike no other. You continue and push through for that tiny human. When they hurt, you hurt, and you work hard and do your very best to keep them happy and healthy. Watching them grow and learn, seeing them smile, hearing them laugh, just seeing the joy and happiness in their eyes, makes it all worth it. There will be bad days, but remember the good days will always out weigh the bad. Motherhood is the best job ever, and I wouldn’t change it for the world. 🥰